Happy New Year, lovely readers!
What are you up to today? cleaning, sleeping, socializing, gym hunting, hangover nursing? Well, whatever it is, I hope you are enjoying it. Me, I’m relaxing in leggings and an oversized shirt eating a leisurely breakfast and writing to you, after sleeping in and recovering from my events last night… we will get to that in a minute.
Let us first talk about New Years. A time when people party hard on 12/31 and ofter regret it the next morning. A time when we get resolutions or intents for the next 12 months and (if we remember them for that long) try to see them through. New Years is often about staying up late and possibly being out in the cold to watch object (a ball, a peach, a pelican) “drop” as thousands count down the last 10 seconds of the old year and welcome in the new one with confetti and cheers. For many it’s a time to be with friends, family, and loved ones. A kiss at midnight recognizing love and good luck is often shared between couples. It’s a night to dress up and see fireworks another night then July 4th.
This New Years was… is… will continue to be different for me. I didn’t dress up fancy- although my outfit all together was over $300. I didn’t share it with anyone in particular- yet I shared 4 miles and a whole evening with 4000+ total strangers. I didn’t hug or kiss anyone- I did cheers myself with sparkling cider along the way. I didn’t set a “resolution” so much as I changed my focus… my personal motivation for getting up in the morning.
What did I do to ring in 2015? I participated in the New York Road Runners 4 mile Midnight Run through Central Park… at, you guessed it, the stroke of midnight. A massive fireworks display right in front of us kicked things off as several thousand runners took of to bring in the new year the best way we know how, in one of the most amazing cities north of the ATL (lol). I overcame so much in just a few hours. I did this all alone… not with a group to follow… I took myself down and figured it out. I did this in 30 degrees!! 25 or so with the wind chill… that’s cold guys, for me anyway. I realized I’m overcoming my aversion to the cold (when dressed properly) and actually enjoyed it. And I never stopped… of course my pace varied, but I never stopped running, and this is a big one for me. My mind gets tired well before my body and I’m often tempted to quit… but I didn’t not that night.
For me, this run will set the trend for my year. I’m not making a resolution, as much as I’m setting my motivation. Over the past several months it has been brought to my attention that I seldom do things because “I want to”. It’s always been because it will please someone else, or make them happy in a long run, or look good when I go out with them, or to beat myself up for “mistakes” I have made. I’ll let you all in on something not so pretty– all those days of fitness I did and nearly everything else for the past 5 months has been predominantly motivated by this thought, “If your Ex is that talented and good looking and amazing and YOU messed that up, you deserve to shred your muscles and push your body and beat yourself up… if for no other reason then that for a short time the physical pain is more intense then the emotional pain and for that time you don’t feel it”.
Yes, I know that’s unhealthy and I’m tired of it. So in this new year- I am my motivation. This year I am going to set goals, most likely various races in NYC, do things that make me happy.
“I will run for… myself. To be the best me in this new year”. to quote my race bib.
If you think that sounds selfish, it’s not. Through a lot of thought, reflection, and growth I recognized that I have always done things to please others… that has been my motivation. But this is un-healthy and un-sustainable (as events in the past months have demonstrated). However, if I am a truly confident and happy individual it will please others (and myself) for longer… healthier relationships.
This is going to be a new Christiane in a new year and I am pumped. Not just running and working out… using my time, resources, and creative skills more. I will write more. I will make the time to grocery shop and cook again. I will get my butt to classes. I will socialize and explore. I’m not saying it’s going to be easy… but I’m not going to dwell on things I can’t fix and instead be in the present and be in it for me.
So y’all, what’s your New Years resolution… or motivation? Share here if you would like, or just write it someplace for yourself and see what the year brings.